Teenager’s problems

Problems in school and with parents. Friendship and love. Education as a great figure in our society. The structure of employed young people in Russia. Taking drugs and smoking as the first serious and actual problem. Informal movements or subcultures.
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Introduction

All people have problem. Some of them have many problem, the others have one or two problem only. Young people have as many problems as the grown-ups. It is possible to solve some problems but sometimes we cannot solve this or that problem. The life of a teenager can be complicated sometimes. It is a difficult age and there are many problems on the way of becoming adults. For example, the choice of free-time activities, parent-child misunderstanding, the choice of future profession, dealing with the first love and so on. Everyone says that youth is probably the best time of our life. But it is also the most difficult time for making some very important decisions which will have influence on all our life. Our time is not the easiest for teenagers who are to find own place in the society, in life.

One more thing, teenagers can take on most of the rights and responsibilities of adulthood. Before this occurs, however, they go through the period of adolescence and most of them experience conflicts at that time. They change rapidly both physically and emotionally and they search self-identity as they grow up and become more independent.

All teenagers have their own views on their life and future. They often stay alone with their thoughts because nobody seems to understand them. Who can help us? How to behave ourselves in difficult situations? How can we protect our rights? How can we express ourselves? Let' try to find out it.



1. Teenager's problems

1.1 Problems in school and problems with parents

One of the most common problems is the misunderstanding between teens and their parents. It has always been a problem but each generation becomes more difficult than the previous. But in our modern life there is often a lack of communication between parents and their children. Lack of the love and attention to children can make them unhappy. Teenagers think that they are old enough to have their own opinion, while their parents don't take their opinion into account. It is not right. Adults should try to give more attention to their children especially at such a difficult age. [5]

Sometimes our parents don't understand us. They don't under-stand some problems and things which are very important in teens' life; for example, the lifestyles of young people, piercing, tattoos, drugs, relationship with friends and teachers. So sometimes teens can't tell them about their private life. Some parents don't want to understand modern views, ideals and system of values. Elderly people usually compare their childhood and youth with the present, and regard old times as better, always talking about "the good old days". The young people, on the other hand, tend to think their times as the best. Teens look at the world with fresh eyes. Everything is new, interesting to them. Sometimes they cannot solve their everyday problems. But they want to cope with them by themselves. So adults shouldn't prevent them from making their own mistakes. People are said to become wiser with age. Sometimes it is true and sometimes it is not. I think that you can meet a wise man among the old as often as among the young. It is false that when old age wisdom has come, useless illusions have disappeared. Sometimes when we talk to adults, a monologue is a preferred form of expressing your ideas in such talks. That's why some teens don't like to talk to adults. I think that it's in people's nature to give advice. It seems to people that giving advice they can help somebody or put somebody on the right track. But if a person takes their advice and fails, he can blame an adult all of his life. Our parents have their own ideas and views that their children don't share and understand. They think that their children won't find their place in life. They often say that now teens are very difficult to socialize with teens. But children should settle all problems peacefully because they are their parents. They brought them up with loving care. And if children come to their parents for advice and help, they will do their best and help children to cope with problems and difficulties.

Teenagers also need more freedom of choice and less pressure. Sometimes we have different tastes. I like the proverb «There is no accounting for tastes. » For example, I go to the shops with my mother. She likes this dress but I like that one. My mother wants me to buy this dress. But I am sure, that dress is much to my taste.

In whole, I get on very well with my parents. Whenever I have problems with my friends or with or with my schoolwork, I know they are always there to listen and give advice. They have taught me a lot. They have got a lot of experience and they have always happy to share their knowledge with me. But sometimes my Mum and Dad seem to think I`m still a kid. When I go out with friends, I always have to be back home by ten o`clock and they call me on my mobile to check where I am. I have to ask permission for almost everything I do. It doesn`t seem fair sometimes but I anyway love my parents very much and I think they are the kindest in the whole world.

The most important thing for teenagers is school. In fact, school is a model of the real life, the place, where kids learn not only how to square numbers or write correctly, but how to communicate with absolutely different people. At school children have to contact with their mates and teachers and this experience is what they have when entering the grown-up world.

Today such things as discrimination or intolerance at schools are not unusual. Some students find no common themes to discuss with their classmates; not everybody is interested, for example, in fashion news or modern gadgets. So they escape to their own world and often become outsiders. An incapability to contact with people around can lead to a lot of problems such as depression or neurosis and even they end up with suicide, which nowadays becomes, so to say, a normal way to die. Suicides among teenagers often happen as a result of their failures in private affairs. Although there are a lot of books, magazines and films dwelling on the subject, parting with a girl- or boyfriend can be a serious trouble in the young age. Besides, most teens are maximalists and see things in black and white… but - who says we must be wise?! To be a teen means to learn how to live, and it's impossible to make no mistakes on the way. [14]

1.2 Friendship and love

Another problem that young people face today concerns their relationship with their friends. As far as friendship is concerned, I think that a person can and should have a lot of friends. Не/she can be on good terms with the classmates. But at the same time there can be only two or three real friends. I believe that real friends will never betray each other. They will always understand and help each other. I agree that tolerance is the pledge of friendship. It is wonderful if a school friend will remain your friend for the rest of your life. But in this case everything depends on the person.

To me, a true friend is there for you no matter what. They don't lie to you no matter what. They also keep their promises. Real friends can be a source of self-esteem, affection and good times. In times of despair, for example, true friends will offer hope. The right friends can help someone feel worthwhile. Friends are important to even happy people. We must be aware that real friendship is vital throughout life. But you can quickly discover real and good friends when you are down or when you require their assistance the most. Why? Because a real friend will not desert you when you are down, and will not turn against you in jealousy, for example, when you succeed.

It often happens that you meet a person and take a shine to them. I'm happy to have made some close friends while at school. We met on the day we first when to school and have been together ever after. We have now known each other for many years. We've spent a lot of time together, going out, visiting various music events, discussing our plans for the future which cemented our friendship. Our best childhood memories are associated with each other. We share the same interests and have a lot in common. If we do something together, it's a child's play. If we ever do something bad to each other, hurt or let down, we always try to make it up.[16]

My best friend is Yuliya Balbekova, 15 years old. She is funny, kind and beautiful. We are friends since ou childhood because we are cousins and neighbors. When we were younger we often fought but now we live in peace. Yulya is a very good friend, she knows and keeps all my secrets.

It's a pity we are going our separate ways after finishing school. But I hope my friends will be there for me and we'll keep in touch.

The problem of love is very important for young people. Today they fall in love when they reach the age of Romeo and Juliet. Romanticism and idealism very often accompany the love of the young. They can love deeply and passionately, they believe that their love will last forever. Unfortunately, often their hearts are broken. Young people are not always ready to have stable relations. In many cases they are too young and inexperienced to begin a family life. They have to continue their education, while family obligations will force them to make money. At the same time without good education it is not easy to find a good job.